Life changes as you keep climbing the ladder of this thing called ‘chronological age’. You get a job, get married and when there are kids, you can practically forget your past life. One of the aspects, which in fact get affected the most, is, keeping in regular touch with your friends. And it doesn’t help when they move out and settle down about 14 hours away by air!
Imagine two best friends, who are used to meeting everyday, catching the latest movies and new eateries together, and then being on the phone late night, catching up on and analyzing the day’s events! Imagine then, these very friends not being able to talk for weeks together! Of course, one can say that one of the flimsiest excuses is, ‘I just don’t get the time’ and time, in fact has to be made. One just has to prioritize!
This makes me think… are friends low on the priority list after a while? Or is it a matter of convenience… we keep in touch with those around, where no real effort is required? But that then I guess is the beauty of friendship! No matter how long you don’t talk, as soon as you do, you pick up from the last time… as if you talked just a few hours ago!
I once read a greeting card which said, ‘You better be friends me for life, for you now know my darkest secrets!’ I’m not sure that’s the reason for maintaining my friendships, though arguably, it does have some merit. In fact, some also argue that you can save a lot of money with a good friend for then, you wouldn’t need therapy. This makes one think of the time when one is in the late teens, early twenties, armed with knowledge and brimming with confidence about how one is so ‘evolved’ and how ‘expert’ philosophical, emotional, psychological advice is given to friends, without a thought!
Which reminds of me of something which I shall attribute to an unknown author when he said, ‘The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch with, never saying a word, and walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you’ve had.’
Which makes me think… as long as you are good friends, no matter how many times you meet or don’t, talk or not, share or not, you are always in the others thoughts and the comforting knowledge that they’ll always be there for you, no matter what!
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